Monday, February 1, 2010

Marvelous Monday and Mom Continued

Yes, I am still away from home in Auburn with several family members now. Most importantly, Mom. One could say that I am gaining experiance in death. Why would one want to? Three now to my witness, and all of them unique. Is this how we decide how WE want to leave this world? By experiance? Sorry for all the questions. I am a curious one you know.
My Mother is in my Sisters family home. Her room is now lined floor to ceiling with family photos. There are flowers, balloons, a family bible, a book to read to her if you like. Photographs of her already passed Mother, brother, and grandson, sit clearly in her view. Her bed is draped with a handmade quilt that up until this week she fondled a lot.She wears a frilly V necked white gown, and a sparkling gold cross around her neck. Her hair is a bit deshevled, but fluffy and pretty. Her nails long, red and perfectly round.  Family and friends come in and out to sit with her. Her daughters, husband and grands crawl in bed with her periodically taking turns loving her up.THIS, I'm sure brings her comfort.
Mom is very close to the balance of physical meets spiritual worlds now, and will pass at any time. She is in no pain and is quite peaceful. Responsive only a few times today, to tell one of us that she loves us. For me personally, just before this post, was to tell me with all the strength she could muster. "I'll be with you". Now this, has given me the same peace. Someone to take care of my James, and still be with me, is all the peace that I need tonight.
We'll be in touch.

Marvelous Monday's will be:

* A strong family
* A peaceful passing for Mom


Anonymous said...

Gina, I was in Carmicaehl two years ago as Mom was nearing her final days in her 90's. She had a difficult last few months. She was sharp as a tack until the end. After being with her for almost 2 months (we live in Palm Springs), we finally had to leave to check on things at home. She passed away peacefully 6 days after we left. We had called in Hospice just days before she passed. She had lost her son at 50 to a brain tumor, just 3 months after losing my father. She was an incredible person. A noted artist, fantastic seamstress, and the best mother a person could ever have.. I had been teaching her to cut out and piece a quilt. I did finish that quilt for her for her last birthday, and it covered her daily.

We miss her presence daily. I talk to her daily in my prayers and just when I think of her.
She was at peace with her life and family. As she said, right before we left, I have had a great life. I think this time "I'm cashing in my chips".

It was so hard to leave, knowing I would not see her again. Just as it was when I lost my brother. And my dad...but they are all together again, keeping watch over us.

I am finally able to rest comfortably, knowing how fulfilling their short or long lives were. Love and respect abounded in our family. God has blessed me for having them in my life. I can rejoice in that.

Marilyn *from Palm Springs)

Carol said...

So beautifully written - words of comfort from you to us when you are struggling - so like you to give to others. Dad passed two months ago and I found your words healing. He is with me every day and I love knowing that I will always be near him. My love, prayers and thanks - to you and your family.

Thearica said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you now Gina. I lost my mother on Sept 1st and your post really touched my heart.

Sharon Dixon said...

Gina, it sounds like your mother's passing will be wonderfully peaceful thanks to the loving arms of her family. My heart goes out to all of you.

Deb Levy said...

Sounds like your Mom is surrounded by love...It's wonderful that you all are giving her this last gift; and as you have said, it is a gift for you too.

You'll be in my thoughts.

Freda said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Gina.

Anonymous said...

Holding you and your entire family in our hearts and in our prayers. Your Mom was truly blessed to have such a loving and caring daughter.

Teresa said...

You are often in my thoughts. I pray your mother's passing will be a gentle one.
My best to you,

marilyn said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

The Sarah Bear said...

You have no idea, but I tell you from my heart - I love you. You are such an incredible daughter! Your mom knows this and so do I.


Purple Quilter Queen said...

I am so sorry for the sorrow that you and your family is going through right now. But it sounds like you have all made it a most special place for your mother to remember when she passes to the other side. My prayers will be with you when that time comes. Peace be with you. Jenn

Turtles In North Dakota said...

(((((((hugs)))))) I am so sorry Gina. I am facing hard thoughts with my father. I just spent two weeks soaking up all the daddy I could. I hope to have more visits but he is so frail. I am so sad for you but happy that you can be there. You are in my heart!

Anonymous said...

Gina, I am so sorry to hear the ad news but reding your post was wonderful! It sounds like your have a wonderful family around you at this time. I am sure your mom knows this too. My prayers ae with you at this dificult time. Take care!!

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Anonymous said...

Oh G, life is just not fair.... You are a wonderful daughter, friend and Mom, I wish I could take this away and make it better... Your Mom is blessed to have such a wonderful daughter who encircles everyone with love, comfort and laughter when needed... Be strong, you are in my heart and prayers and I love U more.... Let me know what you need, I am here for you, you are such a kind, generous and loyal friend, hang in there.... XOXOXO Ronda K Beyer

Anonymous said...

Sending hugs for you and your lovely mom. You will be in our thoughts.

Anonymous said...

You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers.
Donna S (mommadonna)

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