Wednesday, November 24, 2010

Who's Hosting Thanksgiving?

“Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it”
Dorothy Thompson
Well, I tried? My kids decided that there isn't enough room at Mom's house, since the Longarm is center stage, so I will be off to Dear Daughters house instead. I personally don't know how everyone will pull this off due to all of the hospital madness going on. But, we will:) I am going to quilt and make a sweet potato pie today. Oh yeah, and ponder. Its very difficult for me right now to quilt because of the quiet thinking going on. Sometimes.......its really not a good thing. Thinking, that is. Sometimes the pain (s) are too great. But i guess if I wanna eat right? Of course right. Speaking of eating, I think I am losing weight. A bonus u say? Ok! I'll take it. I 'll take lots of it. Who knew... all those damn diets that didn't work and all I had to do was lose those that I love and it would happen. Did I mention I miss AG too?CLIC
Shrink visit yesterday. We should reserve these discussions for tell all Tuesdays eh? It went very well. He gave me lots of ponder food. I think I like him. He seems like a kind man with a gentle spirit. I will keep him awhile longer in hopes of some help. One interesting concept was the psychological study of the Rah Rah Parents vs the Ney Say Parents. A study about the fatal illness of a child from each set of parents. Rah Rah parents were positive, uplifted, cheerful, and very certain that the child would be healed and all would be right with the world.
The Ney Sayers, negative, not much in the way of hope for their child. The children lost the battle and guess which parents were completely destroyed? The rah rah parents fell far too far and they were taken down so low that they could never get back up.. The ney say parents knew it was going to happen so they had no where to go but up.
Now think about it.... What in the heck good did it do the rah rah parents to be so positive? I don't know either, but I am pondering this. Sure makes me wonder though if I don't put all my eggs in one positive basket. All about balance eh? All about balance. There must be some happy middle ground between the shit sandwich pessimist and the happy ass optimist. RIGHT?
You should hear the studies about what makes a happy marriage! I am really picking my brain on this one... I will share more when I sort it out.
OK, bent your eyes long enough, I shall get to work. Have a good pie making day!
Todays quote haunts me so. Is the absence of conflict the KEY to a good relationship? ANY relationship? When love is dieing is it because we stop trying?


shirley said...

well, my thought (for what it's worth) is...if you get depressed, sad, whatever....and go down, down, down...when you hit the bottom then you have nowhere to go but UP. perhaps you just haven't hit the very bottom yet so you can climb up. scary thought, isn't it? but i'm putting a ladder down that hole for you so you can climb up. you are too lovely a person to stay down long. talk to yourself, girl. you don't want life to go on without you, do you? you might miss something wonderful. i miss your exhuberant spirit...bring it back. i know you can do it.

Anonymous said...

I hope you find that ladder to climb back up too!!! You could always use your longarm table to seat everyone at for Thansgiving!!! LOL...that would be interesting!!! Enjoy your day "talking" through oh so much!!!

Fabric Fanatic said...

Gina, I'm sending you a big dose of Hope...and if you are anywhere in Northern California I'm wishing you lots of quilts to keep warm under.

Anonymous said...

I couldn't help but to reply to this, my mother was a rah rah parent. What you read is so true.
hugs to you Gina!

Anonymous said...

awesome, just awesome

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