"Morality, like art, means drawing a line someplace."
Not to be confused with a Mariners compass, Mr. Wizard introduced a Moral compass. A way to answer many questions and slow down the racing thoughts. Now I have tried it out on simple things and it worked. The tougher things, not so well yet. But then again, It may be because I am stubborn.
Hypothetical Question: ( has absolutely no bearing on my case...lol)
Your Mother in law wishes to host Christmas this year, taking the torch from you. What is your reply?
She is getting old, needs to feel needed. She hasn't many more years to do this with her children/grandchildren. but it makes no sense at all when you and your family have established your own traditions and are comfortable with them.
Red Flag! The kids will be confused and out of sync. Bad idea.She may be trying to get back what it took awhile to establish for your own family.
I understand her need however I too have the need to be Ms Santa in our own home. I would be amiss without the exhilaration routine of the holiday. (Like she did with her young family)
The Answer should now come easily? PHISHAW!!! In my mind, this only brings on MORE questions!
What would husband think of me if I said NO? What if we lost her and I couldn't live with guilt? What if the kids think I'm a Scrooge? Mr Wizards answer to this is of course to make a WHAT IF question and answer page. Well.. Like I dont do that night and day right?
do, not do
I mean I am an experienced brain stormer! Analyzer! Feed back seeker!
This is so not easy. Grunt. Especially when I am a sun depraved, displaced emotional train wreck remember??? An interesting concept... Imma go pick up my ball, find a few spoons, do 5 minutes of mindfullness, and do my homework. (Then make some Zoupa while Quilting) GRUNT.