Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say

Do you? Do I? I am examining this today. Just ponder food for quilting. I have issues with evasiveness. Maybe its my curious nature. The need to know it all. I would like to think that I am diplomatically direct.( often times not a good idea at all)  That I mean what I say and say what I mean and expect the same in return. This for me is trust building. The evasiveness, trust erosive. Secrecy sucks big green mean wienies!
Trust. What a big word. I find it difficult at best to trust again. Truth is, I find it difficult to do or have anything again since Jamie left. I do seek repair, sometimes it just escapes me.
I still would rather have bad news, not so good news, right up front. No sugar coating, no Splenda substitutes, just say what ya need to say and get it out in the open for God's sake. I have little patience for brain games, nor do I wish to be blind sighted or ambushed at a later date. I have never enjoyed surprises, good or bad. It dishevels me so. Could be a matter of respect too. Who cares what I wish for? Respect. Or lack of. Hmmmm
Could be why people do not like politician's. Some people were born good politician's eh?
Ahhh Tina Turner  wailed it well..."What's love got to do with it"?
Truth is that it takes MORE than love.
 John Lennon, All you need is love". BULLSHIT.
Life takes MORE than love. He took too many drugs. Clouded his clarity.
Hey! Bet you didnt know that you'd be part of the morning ramblings today did ya? I sorry... I should phone a friend. Sometimes even venting to a friend isnt the right answer. Unsafe. Wheres safe? Who's safe?
The dog! Gingerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr::::whistling::::::


BitnByAQuiltingBug said...

Amen, Sista! I, too, like honest, up front behavior. I'm not a "beat around the bush" kinda girl. Just say it and mean it. Great advice and I'm glad I'm not alone in that!

The Sarah Bear said...

I HEAR YOU! I have rules - not many - but a few. The top rule is if you got to tell me something - SAY IT! Don't hem and haw - Just get it out there and let me start dealing with it. Don't dole out the back story, or lead in slow with superfluous details - TELL ME THE MAIN FACT and we will go from there. Good. Bad. or Ugly.

We are letting you go... then the details.
I am ending our relationship... then the details.
It's going to cost $2,000 to fix... then the details.
Your dog was found dead... then the details.

GIVE ME THE MEAT and then the potatoes.

Anonymous said...

Amen, sista! I dislike people who give the stuff up front. Stop stalling and get to the point already would ya!

Trust/safety...two really difficult things to obtain and then KEEP!

Big Hugs!

Karen A.

Thomas (& Laura) Hodge said...

Ya mean: "The truth shall set you free." Jn. 8:23
To say nothing of: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Luke 6:31 (try: "speak unto others as you would ..."; "work for others as ..."; "speak of others ...")
Or: "Why don't say what you mean, mean what you say - One thing leads to the other?"
The Fixx, 1983
Love from Colorado

Gina said...

Ahhhh Good ponder partners.... Nice:)

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